Read and Learn: Avoid the Scams

Here is an account of one guy who thought he had a real relationship with a Filipina, only to see the whole facade crumble.

Scamming fiancee

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I had known my girlfriend for over a year online. We both had relationships that broke up around March, and she wanted to hook up. She's from Surigao City, which I've been to before. We met in Cebu in late June, and spent a week there and in Bohol. Lovely time.

About early October she started talking odd, like she suddenly had money (she's dirt poor). One day she asked if she could visit me here in California, she said she was obtaining a tourist visa. I know that takes money, a good job, etc, and upon questioning her, she said she had fooled a man in NY to send her $1000 for the visa (to be obtained thru an agency). She said she was going to try to get the visa to come see me. I told her to send his money back, and apologize to him (Fred).
She said he had been supporting her, sight unseen, for several months. I thought this might be some kind of ruse, so I told her I needed to be sure of this, to send the money to me, and I'd return it to him. She actually WU the money to me (several times more than shes seen in her life). I thought that would be the end of it as we were planning our marriage. She promised she had not been in touch with him, and she would not do that again. She sent him (and me) an email ending the relationship, and asking him to send me his real address so I could send his $ back to him.

I never heard back, thought that odd, and asked her why. She said she emailed him and he justdidn't want it back, he was disgusted with her. So I sent him an email, and the add turned out tobe undeliverable. However, I was able to add him to my IM, I contaced him on the IM, and he and I were both surprised: she had told each of us that she had dumped the other. He was shocked that we were planning on getting married and that I would be visiting her on Dec. 21.

Needless to say, I was about to have it out with her. But it gets better. Back up a few weeks. I was showing her how to screen capture cam images and stuff on her screen, simply alt + prt scr to capture. She captured several things on her screen and sent them to me for fun at that moment, including me on the cam, and... wait for it.... HER YAHOO IM LIST window.

So.... I sent an email to everyone on that list saying that I was her fiancee, please wish us well. About 10 addresses. I got back a slew of angry responses in the next day or so, they are each a different boyfriend (well, actually monetary donors it would turn out). So there it was in black and white: numerous men who she was stringing along, saying she wanted to meet (she always had an excuse why she couldn't), asking them for money. Some guys sent me her emails to them, and some also sent their IM's. Very romantic, full of MAHAL KO, can you send me some money for my rent / son / medicine for sexual disease???

You get the pic. Actually I'll attach another pic or two. I ended the relationship shortly thereafter, just a few days before flying to Philippines to meet her and fill out our K-1 visa. After she was caught, she wanted like crazy to save our relationship. She even called my house 40 times one night, 4AM, waking my kids and me up. I'll include here her admission of guilt here. Sorry about the length. Her name is Nichie Lou Andion, she's not on DIA.

So what we have here is the classic story of a Filipina scamming multiple men for huge amounts of cash. But here the victim gets the lesson:

Sending $

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DW, HW, others. As an aside from my former fiancee's scamming, I think many of us make it easy for them to do this. She was scamming multiple men whom she'd never met. I was the only one she had met or inteneded to meet, and I wasn't the one sending her $ on a regular basis. She told many that she wanted to meet, get married, etc, but always made excuses why she couldn't. Isn't the rule of thumb to not send money to someone you haven't met?

Only one other guy that I'm aware of had not sent her any money, and when he wouldn't, she broke their 'engagement'. I think we make it easy for the girls when we do this. Some of the guys, having not been to a poor country, are sending her 2x, 3x what her monthly needs are. Amazing shes making bank. No wonder she rarely asked me for anything (made me curious). To each his own on this subject. Thoughts?


Notice that the only guy who didn't lose money in this scammer's web of lies was the guy who actually went to the Philippines and who never sent her money. I'm sure his feelings were hurt, but he had great times with her, and didn't lose any money. On the other hand, every guy who tried to stay at home and who sent her money, got taken.

A Revealing Message

I received the following at a dating site. Thew photo above is totally unrelated to the message, by the way. My comments are in italics.


"I want to meet a Male
with age from 35 to 64
and I want to meet for Romance or Marriage."

Anyone who says just "marriage," or marriage and one other factor, is gunning to get married. This does not sound like fun.

"An Education guy, one who can read. I'm shocked how many don't read the profile. I'm looking to meet a Foreigners, not fellow countrymen or any one in Asia. "

Despite the irony of her wanting an "education [sic] guy, one who can read," she has a good point. Read her profile and respond to it!

"I don't do web cam interview so please don't ask about me going on cam, because I won't. No chat, unless you ask first. I'm looking for a nice man, I'll be as good to you as you are to me."

Both of these lines speak to guys who are looking for an online T & A show. This is not what the dating sites are for. She won't go on cam --is it because she's using someone else's picture?

"Oh, and you guys that are going to write to and tell me ( that if I pay my way to your country, you are going to let me sleep with THEM, haha that is funny. If I have the power to go out from here, what makes you think that I would go to you... "

This is chilling. If she could get to your country, why would she need you? Mull that over.

If you were to marry her, which is what she wants, SHE STILL DOESN"T NEED YOU ONCE SHE'S IN YOUR COUNTRY!

If you got her over to your home country and she left you, you just got burned for a plane ticket. If she is married to you and she realizes that now that she's on terra firma in the US, you are no longer necessary, you are about to get taken for half of everything you own, plus monthly payments.

Furthermore, guys, why are you so damn lazy? Get off of your ass and get to the Philippines! In your home country, you're going to get stuck with bitter, grasping bitches like this.

IF YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND, ME... THEN DON'T SEND BACK TO ME, THANKS...

This reveals an attitude. I'd steer clear of this one.

Internet Scammers

Here is a post from a guy who saw the typical Internet scammer in action. You must always keep in mind how easy it is for a woman to mass e-mail dozens of guys and make easy money.

Once was in a bar in Orchard Towers in Spore. Chatting to a Thai lady but wasn't so interested in paying to bonk her. Anyways we were talking and joking about pc's and she was saying how the internet cafe was so slow, etc.

So like any gentlemen I offered her to come back to my hotel nearby so she could send messages.

I logged in and for next 30 minutess sat in amazement as this lady (maybe a 7, but funny girl) sent email after email. All essentially with same content. "Hi honey. My mum/dad/brother/etc all sick. I love you forever etc. "

She must have sent about 30 emails. All to different guys. Cut and pasted contents, occasionally ask me how to spell " remittance" " urgently" etc.

There are lots of sad suckers out there, and none of us should (BUT WE ARE! ) fooled by internet expressions of love coupled with Western Union payouts.

Cebuano Language Lesson from Toni

Asa ka? (Ah-sah kah?)

or

Asa ka man? (Ah-sah kah mahn?)

Where are you going?






In Tagalog/Pilipino, which is the national language, the question is "Saan ka pupunta?" (Sah-ahn kah poo-poon-tah?). This is often used as a greeting, and is not intended to be nosy.

Today's model is Toni Gonzaga, a Philippine actress, TV host, and singer. You often see her in Philippine toothpaste and shampoo ads. It's as though this gal was sculpted from a single solid block of beauty.

Toni is very well liked nationally, in part because she is wholesome and free of the scandal and backbiting remarks so common among celebrities.

Will the Real Filipina Please Stand Up?

Above are the pictures of two different women.

At least it seems like two different women, since one Filipina in Cebu is posting the picture on the left as hers in her profile, and another Filipina in Leyte is posting the picture on the right as hers in her profile. Yet the two pictures look remarkably similar.

What could explain two different women in two different towns looking identical?

• They are identical twins living on 2 separate islands and posting on the same dating site. Since they are sisters, they often share clothing, jewelry, and take pictures in the same place, perhaps during a family get-together.
  

• One woman stole the other one's picture.

• Both are scamming bitches who stole a third girl's picture.
  

I'm going with option #3.

Filipinas Trolling for Cash on the Internet

The following is the picture of a "woman" on a Philippine dating site who is looking for some sucker to send her money.

Here is part of her profile:

hi to all!!!! looking chatmate.... message me if you are willing to help my studies that's all..

hi im mj, im good... my hobbies playing Badminton and Volleyball...

I put "woman" in quotes because there is no way of knowing if the picture is of the person sending the message. For all we know, some guy or an old lady could have posted this picture to the message.

Be aware that if you send her money, there is no guarantee what it will be used for. There is no guarantee that you will ever receive anything in return from her.

This summer I met a Filipina who earned money investigating Filipinas with foreign boyfriends. The results of her investigations were often unpleasant. She busted women lying about plane tickets, operations, and school enrollment. She was able to help one foreigner whose girlfriend was asking for money for tuition, when an investigation revealed she wasn't enrolled as a student.

There are several other items that raise suspicion in this profile:

• She will accept a guy from 18-80. While this is not automatically a deal killer, most women (particularly young and attractive women) will be more selective. A scammer is willing to rip off any guy, no matter how old he is.
• She is in southern Mindanao. Again, of itself, this isn't a deal breaker, but it's more difficult to check up on a girl in less traveled Mindanao than in Cebu or Manila.
• The photo is awfully slick. Compare it to other girls' photos. Again, this is suspicious

The big kicker of it all though, is that it violates Rule #1 DO NOT GIVE MONEY TO A
WOMAN YOU HAVEN'T SLEPT WITH.

Danger Will Robinson! Danger!

As a public service I need to warn all men of the hazards that await them when meeting, dating, and marrying Filipinas.

On the one hand, if you know where to go and what to do, you can find the love of a lifetime. I typically meet women in the Philippines and find myself asking, “What is she doing with me?” Having been married and divorced, and lived in alcohol-soaked misery and loneliness for years on end, it still amazes me to find myself with young, gorgeous women. And the sex is mind-blowing.

On the other hand, if you don't know where to go and what to do, you can get taken for everything you've got. In my travels in the Philippines I collect these stories of foreign men coming to the Philippines and getting ripped off. Some men are even murdered for their money.

So many men are ripped off over the Internet, but if they ever make it to the Philippines, the real theft begins in earnest.

Today I'd like to highlight just one guy, Tim, who was taken to the cleaners in the bowels of hell. (See here.)

Tim got involved with a woman, and this woman and her family are a nest of scorpions.

The following is a partial list of how Tim was scammed:

• All of the sisters are involved in internet scamming - giving hard luck stories to 'clients' in order to get the client to send money, purchase PCs, etc. Ronalyn herself, on the pretense that she was 'in love' with me and was going to marry me, got me to dole out the following:

• $6000 to rebuild her parents house because it had supposedly 'burned down'

• $17000 to build the house she currently runs her studio from. That was supposed to be my retirement home

• 1 desktop PC at $400

• 1 laptop PC at $600

• Many, many XOOM and Western Union money transfers in addition to the monies described above.

Tim's case is not a rarity. Imagine forking over $17,000 for a house, and then seeing that house used by your girlfriend and her family for Internet sex chat! Imagine seeing some harlot on an Internet chatroom and recognizing the curtains in the background --“That's my room!

Picture buying your girlfriend a computer, only to have it used for her to put on sex shows. How would you feel when you learn that another guy came over from the US when you were gone, had sex with your supposed future wife, and got her pregnant?

This is not an isolated case. I have heard dozens of these stories in person, as guys tell their tales of woe over a beer.

• The easiest way to protect yourself is not to marry a Filipina.
  
• Do not buy a house.
  
• Do not put anything into a girlfriend's name.
  
• Do not accumulate property such as motorcycles, cars, houses, expensive electronic gear (my cellphone in the Philippines is bought used for less than $20), boats, etc.

If you follow these rules you can really enjoy the Philippines. You can find love and happiness. And it might just save your life.